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Steps to Becoming a Foster Parent

Updated: Jan 6

It’s a New Year, 2023, and this is the year YOU have decided you are ready and able to think about becoming a short term foster parent.




Perhaps you just sent the last of your children off to college. Perhaps, your baby just became potty-trained, or perhaps you just retired and are looking for a way to connect and give back to your community in the most rewarding way! This article will guide you through the steps you can take to prepare for becoming a short term foster parent from choosing an agency to work with, to prepping your family and home for your first placement.


Choosing the right agency

Maybe the most important step in becoming a short-term foster parent is choosing the right Child Placing Agency to work with. Quality Youth Services (QYS) is licensed by the State of Utah to place youth aged 12-21 years old into short-term foster families that we have trained to care for this vulnerable population.


Things to consider when choosing an agency should be:

  1. What is the agency's mission statement and does it align with your personal goals and values? Quality Youth Service’s mission is to strive to provide a safe and healthy environment where our clients and their families, our staff and proctor families, are all catalysts of positive change in our community.

  2. How will my foster agency prepare me for my first placement? Quality Youth Services will provide foster families with over 40 hours of pre-placement training in their home or in an office setting. Foster families will be first aide and CPR certified at no cost to them and will feel confident in their ability to care and supervise the youth in their home prior to their first placement.

  3. What kind of support will I receive from my foster agency AFTER I receive my first placement? Quality Youth Services offers a team of support around every youth placed in one of our foster homes. Foster families will be assigned a Treatment Coordinator, who will act as their point person, for any and all questions regarding the youth in their home. The client’s treatment team will consist of the Treatment Coordinator, a therapist, a caseworker, and the foster parent. QYS also has “Youth Mentors” that can provide additional support to foster families and youth such as transportation and school help. Foster parents will be able to use our 24 on-call worker who is trained to deal with any emergency, at any time of day, to help support families in their home after office hours.


Choosing the right clients

Now that you have chosen an Agency you can trust, you need to think about what type of youth you will be willing to take. Is there an age range, gender, or issue you may have some insight into that would make you the perfect fit for someone?


Things to consider when thinking of the clients you may take on:

  1. Do you have a preference for the sex/gender of the youth? While young boys make up the lion’s share of the foster care population, young girls have a harder time finding suitable placements in Utah due a lack of availability of options for female foster youth. While each gender comes with their ups and downs, you should decide what gender will fit best in your family. Perhaps you have raised 4 boys and feel your family has a special ability to connect with males. Or perhaps you are a member of the LGBTQIA community or ally and would be a great fit for a non-binary or trans youth. Or perhaps you have no preference at all!

  2. Do you have pets in your home? Simply having pets may mean you are not the right fit for some youth due to allergies. But, if you do have animals, most foster youth love the company of family pets. Consider how your pets interact with new people and what ages would be appropriate to spend time with the animals in your home.

  3. Do you have any age preferences for the youth placed in your home? When thinking about the age range of the youth you will accept into your home, you should consider whether or not you have children of your own in the home. Some foster parents prefer to have foster youth placed in their home that are similar to their own children’s ages so that there are some similarities between the two, such as the extra-curricular activities they engage in, the school they attend, and the issues they face for that age, and the rules they will follow. Other foster families like to take placements that are different from their own children's’ ages because they felt it decreased direct comparisons between foster and biological children, and allowed the family to focus on one child at a time due to their differing needs.


Preparing your home

The State of Utah sets the requirements for home preparation for a short-term foster placement, and a good foster care agency will help you meet these requirements prior to receiving your first placement. While the majority of the rules and regulations for foster homes are common-sense safety protocols, some may be outside the norm of an everyday home.


When preparing your home consider the following:

  1. Foster youth are not allowed to share a bedroom with foster parents or foster siblings, but they may share a bedroom with another foster you of the same gender. Bedrooms for foster youth must include a window that opens, a door that latches, and a minimum of 40 square feet of space. They must be provided a bed with clean linens and their bedrooms should be comparable to other bedrooms in the home.

  2. Ensure you have a working smoke detector and Carbon Monoxide detector on each floor of the home. This includes basements, and second levels.

  3. Ensure alcoholic beverages are monitored and inaccessible to youth at all times

  4. Purchase a lock box or locking cabinet to store household chemicals/cleaning products or personal medications.

  5. Purchase a gun safe if you have firearms and ensure they are inaccessible to youth at all times.

  6. Ensure all bathrooms have the ability to be locked and make sure you have the ability to unlock them from the outside if necessary.

Preparing your schedule

The quickest way to feeling burnout is to not leave time for yourself and the things you love to do. Think about your daily, weekly and monthly schedule prior to beginning to foster to see what routines are important to you, and what aspects of your schedule can be altered to allow for a new youth to join your home. Try writing out a schedule for a few weeks to get into the practice of creating a predictable routine--and don’t forget to include periods of self-care to recharge the mind and body. Also, consider where in your schedule you could easily incorporate a foster youth, perhaps your evening walk would be better with a little company! While fostering youth in your home is going to change certain things about your life, by having a clear routine set in place beforehand, you can rest assured that the youth entering your home has a clear view of how things are run and they will appreciate your predictability!


Completing the application

Now that you have found the right Child Placing Agency that is the best fit for you, it is time to complete the foster parent application. This application is available on our website at https://www.qualityyouthservices.com/foster-care. The application is 100% digital and secure to safely collect your sensitive personal information.


The application will walk you through each of the following sections to complete:

  • Current employment information

  • Estimated household income

  • Marital Status and spouse information

  • Information about children in the household

  • Information about anyone over 18 living in the household

  • Information on any criminal offenses

  • Smoke detectors in the home

  • Screenings for lead paint completed

  • Drinking water tests completed

  • Four personal references

After submitting the application, you will be contacted within 48 hours by the Quality Youth Services Program Director, Becky Otsuka, to schedule a phone or in-person interview to get to know you and your household better.


Support of family and friends

As part of the Foster Parent Application, applicants are asked to provide 4 separate personal references who can speak about you and your family/household. Only 1 of the 4 references may be related to you. After you provide the reference's contact information, they will be emailed a digital form asking them specific questions about you and your family to help the foster agency get an idea of how others perceive the family unit.


Some example questions that will be asked are:

  1. For how long, and in what capacity, have you known the foster parent applicant?

  2. What are the strengths of the family as you see them?

  3. What kinds of stress have you seen the family deal with and how do they solve or handle stress?

Be sure to choose people who are familiar with you and how you are as a parent, such as a babysitter, church member, close family friend, or neighbor. Also, be sure to let your references know you have used their names and contact information so they look out for our email and promptly respond.


Complete Background checks

Every foster parent in the State of Utah must undergo a FBI background check that is preformed by Utah’s Office of Licensing. The FBI Background check looks for any criminal charges as well as for any Department of Child and Family Services referrals for abuse or neglect in all 50 states. A Criminal Record does not disqualify a person from being a foster parent, but more information regarding the charge may be requested such as the original court docket and the outcome of the case before applicants are approved by the Office of Licensing. Here at Quality Youth Services, we believe in the rehabilitation of people and their ability to change for the better, or we wouldn’t be in this business!


Certain criminal charges that involve violence, or any substantiated claims of Abuse or Neglect will automatically disqualify an applicant. In addition to the foster parent(s) submitting to a background check, any other adult over 18 years old who lives in the home will also be required to submit to a background check such as adult children, roommates, and spouses.


Review your income

Per the State of Utah, foster families are not to be reliant on the reimbursement they receive for fostering youth in their home, meaning, families must have sufficient income to cover their expenses prior to fostering in order to be eligible for being a foster parent. Quality Youth Services meets this requirement by asking foster families to provide QYS with proof of income in the form of tax returns or paycheck stubs for household earners. Furthermore, foster parents complete a short form that outlines their income and expenses to show that they are affording their lifestyles without the additional reimbursement from the State for the care and supervision of foster youth in their home. Being a foster parent is not a job, and the money you receive from being a foster parent is not a paycheck, but a reimbursement for the costs you incur while caring for the foster youth; therefore, your reimbursement is not taxable by the IRS and may not be counted as your personal income for purposes of getting a loan, etc.


Marriage Rules

Utah law states that a single man or woman or any married couple may become a foster parent. Utah code defines unmarried couples as ineligible as foster parents. This means any couple that co-habitats, but is not married, would not be approved as a foster parent. In the case of an unmarried couple that does not live together, only one person would be considered the Foster Parent and only their residence would be licensed as the foster home. Same sex couples are encouraged to apply as they are largely underrepresented in the foster care system and they also must be married in order to foster youth in their home.


Health Check-Ups

As part of the Foster Parent Ob-boarding process, prospective foster parents are required to get their primary care doctor to provide their medical consent to be a foster parent. Foster Parents will take a Quality Youth Services Medical Consent form to their provider for approval and submit it back to QYS for review. Providers will be asked if the foster parent has any medical conditions that may prevent them from providing the proper care and supervision required for foster youth placed in their homes. Providers will be required to sign and date the consent form as proof of their consent. This Medical Consent only needs to be received one time, and then annually, foster parents will self-report their health status to confirm their continued ability to be a foster parent.


Training in Your Home

Quality Youth Services ensures all foster parents in our agency feel 100% confident in their ability to parent difficult youth that may have increased needs compared to the average kid. As part of the Foster Parent On-boarding process, foster parents will receive over 40 hours training prior to receiving their first short-term foster placement. Each training session will be scheduled as either an in-home or virtual appointment with our Program Director, Becky Otsuka, who will provide the training on each topic. After each training session, Becky will provide a brief training test about the material just covered and will go over any incorrect answers until you understand all of the material.


Each training module is designed to help the foster parent build skills and knowledge about dealing with our special population of foster youth so that they will feel empowered to parent the youth in an effective way as a part of a treatment team.. Some of the training topics you will cover as a foster parent are:

  • Child Abuse, Harassment and Unstable Family Dynamics

  • Dealing with Grief and Loss in Foster Youth

  • Trauma-Informed Care

  • Cultural Sensitivity

  • Fostering LGBTQIA Youth

  • Behavior Management & Approved Discipline methods

  • Suicide Prevention

  • Requirements for Medical, Dental, Medication Management, and Mental Health Appointments

  • Gang Awareness

  • Working with Sexual Assault Victims and Offenders

  • Working with Common Mental Health Diagnoses

Implementing the TFTC Program Model

Quality Youth Services uses the evidence-based Treatment Foster Care program “Together Facing the Challenge” that was created by Duke University. Commonly referred to as TFTC, this treatment program model focuses on supporting the foster parents as an integral part of the foster youth’s treatment team and uses evidence-based techniques to better parent the youth in your home. Each youth who is placed into foster care comes with their own “invisible suitcase” that contains all the good and bad experiences from their lives that directly impact their current behavior and mental health.


The TFTC curriculum is incorporated into the Foster Parent on-boarding process prior to the foster parent receiving their first foster youth. The curriculum is broken down in the following seven sessions:

  1. Building Relationships and Teaching Cooperation

  2. Setting Expectations

  3. Use of Effective Parenting Tools to Enhance Cooperation

  4. Implementing Effective Consequences

  5. Cultural Sensitivity

  6. Transition to Young Adulthood

  7. Effective Communication and Taking Care of Self


How to Start Today

Now, that may seem like a lot of things! But every step is designed to make the new foster parent feel confident in their ability to provide a safe, secure and nurturing environment for all family members including the foster youth.


Quality Youth Services provides short term foster care through our dedicated foster parents in Cache, Box Elder, Weber, Davis, Salt Lake and Utah counties. If you or someone you know is interested in becoming a foster parent, please complete the foster parent application on our website at this link, https://www.qualityyouthservices.com/foster-care, and our Program Director will call to schedule an interview within two days.


Or if you would like more information before applying, check out our website page dedicated to Foster Parents at this link, https://www.qualityyouthservices.com/proctor-parents.


You may also request more information or get answers to specific questions prior to applying at this link https://www.qualityyouthservices.com/request-more-information


Quality Youth Services Foster Parents play a vital role in the mental health, well-being and future success of the vulnerable youth they serve in their homes. Please join us in being catalysts of positive change in our community by deciding to foster today!




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